Update: Queer partners, we have a date with the Pentagon on September 16th. I believe that will be the extent of our input on their policies, so don’t miss it.
Don’t even get me started on these Pentagon surveys.
Too late, I’ve already gotten started. As a queer military partner, I’ve been pissed about this for days. I have three words for the Pentagon: W. T. F. What is UP with the military surveying straight military spouses on their views about Don’t Ask Don’t Tell?
In the instructions, it says: “This is your chance to be heard.”
That’s rich. That makes me laugh one of those twisted laughs that isn’t even a laugh, just a noise. Why on godsgreenearth do THEY get a say? Who are they to help decide military law? Who are they gonna survey next, Latvians?
Here are some of the most ridiculous questions from the survey:
Assume DADT is repealed and you live in on-base housing. If a gay or lesbian Service [sic] member lived in your neighborhood with their partner, would you stay on-base or would you try to move out?
Would the repeal of DADT affect your willingness to recommend military service to a family member or close friend?
Really? I had no idea spouses were supposed to be walking advertisements for the military anyway. Once again, straight people are getting to decide what queer people should and shouldn’t be allowed to do. Since when do they get a say in my rights? Certainly not since the Constitution was ratified! What does their relationship to a soldier have to do with that soldier’s work environment? How are they at all relevant to what’s going on here? Is the Pentagon really gonna collect the data and say, ‘You know, we really wanted to end DADT, but a lot of spouses are are upset about it, so…. it’s a no go’?
How important a factor would a repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell be to you in making decisions about your spouse’s future in the military?
IT WOULD BE VERY IMPORTANT!
For REAL, people!
Did it never occur to the Pentagon to ask queer partners to fill out a survey? They could at least say, you know, ‘Hey military homos and partners– we really wanted to get your opinion, but we couldn’t figure out how to do it. Sorry about that.” Even a half-assed explanation like that would be more acceptable than blatantly ignoring us!
It’s ridiculously infuriating to watch all this go down, knowing that whatever decision is made will affect my life and my partner’s life–do you get that, our LIVES–and we have no say.
This survey is a joke, you hear me? A JOKE!
Why is the Pentagon gathering all this information if they’re only gonna twist it the way they want it anyway?
I don’t know what their deal is, but I can tell you this: if December comes and the results of this “study” (and I use that in the loosest sense of the word; it would never pass even the most basic undergraduate class on methodology) don’t look like they should, the Pentagon better watch out. Because I and a lot of other people will have NOTHING TO LOSE.
I was not asked. But by all that’s gay and good, I am going to TELL! They are going to HEAR US!